"If only ..."

Yesterday a video on Yahoo Health featured Melissa Morris, a woman who lost hundreds of pounds.  Noteworthy are her words about things not being suddenly rosy and perfect just because she lost most of the weight.  How often I've thought or even said out loud, "If only ______" in the spirit of expecting perfection once that one aspect of experience changes.  Of course I do it less and less with each passing year. 

Last week a friend introduced me to the term "solutionizing" as a habit of trying (often and sometimes in vain) to figure out and act out solutions for everyone and everything.  The aim of solutionizing is the fantasy-based sense of relief at the end of the "if only..."

Here is the link to the Good Morning America video:

http://gma.yahoo.com/video/health-26594251/melissa-morris-reclaims-her-life-28105592.html#crsl=%252Fvideo%252Fhealth-26594251%252Fmelissa-morris-reclaims-her-life-28105592.html